Friday, April 29, 2011

Homegrown Values 10 - Sensitivity

Have you ever told your kids they are too sensitive, that they need to toughen up? I was told that a lot as a child, and I thought being sensitive was a bad thing. By the time I was a teenager I was reading Highly Sensitive People, (with a book cover of course!)

As an adult I look back and laugh! I am so GRATEFUL to be sensitive! It's been a huge blessing in my life. I am empathetic and a great listener. These are qualities that need to be nurtured, not stifled. 

   Sensitive people make great spouses and great parents. They also make excellent friends, because they are in tune with what's going on around them. They are sensitive to others needs and feelings because they take the time to put themselves in others shoes, so to speak. 

We should encourage sensitivity in our children so they are able to understand the needs of others and be better communicators. 

Don't fall in the trap of being offended by things and calling it sensitivity - that's an ego trip - not what I'm talking about here. If you choose to be offended then you're needing attention and care rather than being sensitive to the situation and the energies around you. 

Most kids are really good at distinguishing energy. This is why they will intuitively trust some people and be standoffish towards others. They are sensing something that perhaps we cannot. Go with it, honor it and don't force your child to go against what he or she is feeling to be right. 

Encourage your child to be sensitive by respecting the moments of a show of feelings and honoring their input. Cultivate that and help your child be mindful just as you are! Sensitivity is a wonderful quality, and can be very beneficial in many aspects of life - from relationships to business - sensitivity really blesses those who cultivate it!  

 

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